I bought two new gender changers for less than $5. I installed one and this seems to work. All was functional except the charge pump until I changed another setting. In CONFIG--> GENERAL CONFIG, I ticked the box for "Charge Pump On In Estop". I tested this out and the motors go inactive if I close Mach3. This is what I was looking for. All limit and home switches behave exactly as expected. Thus I was finally able to set the machine to machine coordinate home.
Thanks again TPS, your insight was absolutely key to my success!!
...and I didn't have to tear everything down t figure this out.
Tony